Vic and Emma’s story

When I think about my beautiful 32-year-old daughter, Emma, I picture her smiling. I remember her warmth, her kindness and her desire to make everyone around her feel better about themselves.  

Losing Emma to brain cancer two years ago has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to face. But I’m so grateful that she spent her final weeks being so well cared for at Prospect Hospice. 

Towards the end of her life, when Emma became really unwell, I desperately wanted to keep her at home. As her mum, I felt it was my job to care for her until the very end. But on Mother’s Day, her condition seriously deteriorated and I knew I couldn’t manage on my own. I picked up the phone and called Prospect Hospice – it was the best thing I could have done for my girl. 

As soon as we arrived at the hospice, a nurse came for Emma and I crumpled to my knees. It was the first time I had allowed myself to cry because someone else was there to support us. 

Vic and Emma

Over the following two weeks, the hospice could tend to Emma’s every need. They managed her pain and made sure she was as comfortable as possible. It was such a relief that they wouldn’t let her suffer. More than that, they made Emma feel like a person, not just a patient. She had been terrified of losing her sense of self, but they made sure that never happened. 

The whole team surrounded her with love and took the time to find out what mattered to her most – her partner, her family, her friends and her dog. They even applied Emma’s favourite skincare products so that she continued to smell like her. As a Beauty Consultant, that meant so much to Emma. And, as her mum, that level of respect and care meant the world to me.  

I stayed with her almost every night at Prospect Hospice. But instead of worrying about bathing her, dealing with her medication and helping her to use the bathroom, I could just hold her hand, stroke her hair and talk to her.  

Shortly after we arrived, Emma asked if she’d ever be able to go outside again? Prospect Hospice made that possible one sunny afternoon. I’ll always remember sitting beside her in the hospice’s tranquil garden, drinking a cup of tea with the warmth of the sun on our skin. These simple things made the agonising reality of losing my daughter more bearable. I could focus on being Emma’s mum again. 

Since Emma died, Prospect has been there for me through the darkest of days. They’ve provided bereavement counselling and I know they’ll aways be here to support me, should I need their help again. 

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